Don't Call Me A Bitch


I need to get a couple things off my chest but I don’t want to do it in a Facebook rant kind of way - we have had enough of those lately! It is actually quite the contrary as like many of you I am not a fan of reading politically fueled and hate provoking opinions on social media. Besides, my goal for H-A-L-E is to bring people together and create mindful conversations.

Like many of you, I have been more involved and more interested with US politics than ever before. Perhaps it has something to do with getting older, having a wiser perspective on our nation’s political topics, or the simple fact that my rights as a woman are at the forefront.


I recently had an open conversation with an acquaintance that was speaking very passionately about his views on Trump, Hillary, and the recent Woman’s March. Hearing his views made me angry and downright pissed. We had different opinions on all three topics. To save you the drama, let’s just say our fiery fueled debate ended with him calling me a "bitch."


This was certainly not the first time I’ve been called that word.

And, probably not that last.

I also have a hunch that if you are a woman and you are reading this blog – you too have been called a bitch once or twice.


So, here is the bottom line on the B-word.

Just because a woman has an opinion that is different from yours does not make her a bitch.

To make this point even more clear. I have made a list of some of well known women that have  either been criticized, called a "bitch," or even worse.

I hope they inspire you as much as they’ve inspired me.


Marissa Mayer
"I realized in all the cases where I was happy with the decision I made, there were two common threads: Surround myself with the smartest people who challenge you to think about things in new ways, and do something you are not ready to do so you can learn the most." —Los Angeles Times, January 2011


Diane von Furstenberg 
"I am a founder, I am a creator, a person who invented something and who invented herself. I can inspire people and motivate people. I can do that." —New York Times, April 2015


Sheryl Sandberg
"A good leader recognizes that most people won’t feel comfortable challenging authority, so it falls upon authority to encourage them to question. It’s easy to say that you’re going to encourage feedback but it’s hard to do, because unfortunately it doesn’t always come in a format we want to hear." —Harvard Business School Class Day, May 2012


Shonda Rhimes
"All of the women, white or black or brown who woke up like this, who came before me in this town. Think of them ... How many women had to hit that glass before the pressure of their effort caused it to evolve from a thick pane of glass into just a thin sheet of splintered ice? ... Making it through the glass ceiling to the other side was simply a matter of running on a path created by every other woman’s footprints. I just hit at exactly the right time in exactly the right spot." —The Hollywood Reporter’s 23rd annual Women in Entertainment Breakfast, December 2014


Jenna Lyons
"Managing creative people — not so easy. A lot of emotion, a lot of stroking. Some people need tough love. Some people need a lot of love. There’s no right or wrong answer. When someone creates something and puts it in front of you, that thing came from inside of them, and if you make them feel bad, it’s going to be hard to fix, because you’ve actually crushed them." —Fast Company, April 2013


Hillary Rodham Clinton
"Whether I am meant to or not, I challenge assumptions about women. I do make some people uncomfortable, which I’m well aware of, but that’s just part of coming to grips with what I believe is still one of the most important pieces of unfinished business in human history — empowering women to be able to stand up for themselves." —Vogue, December 2009


Tina Fey
"Don’t waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions; go over, under, through, and opinions will change organically when you’re the boss. Or they won’t. Who cares? Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it." —Bossypants, 2011


Frida Kahlo
"I don't give a shit what the world thinks. I was born a bitch, I was born a painter."

Well said, Bitches!!!!!

With Gratitude,
Haley Balzano
Creator of