If you were to browse through my Google Calendar, from first glimpse you'd see a rainbow of colored coded appointments and meetings each day of the week. Not a surprise for a woman that owns her own design firm - it is what to be expected. And, at times I like to admit that I secretly like having a full deck of bookings. It keeps my mind in check and I always have something to look forward to each day of the week. However, like everything else in life, "balance" is the secret to not going insane. So, when I do find an open day where I can sleep through my alarm and not worry about running late or having somewhere to be - I go into full on "Me, Myself, and I Mode!"
This usually involves my lovely fiancé being out of town. He is incredibly structured and regimented in his morning routine. And, with over 16 years under our belt, his rise and shine wake up calls 7 days a week has somehow rubbed off on me. Laying in bed till 10:30am on a Saturday with coffee at my bedside and a laptop nestled into the comforter is totally not his cup of tea.
But, when he is traveling - it is one of the many things I find myself doing. Yep, soaking in my oversized bathtub with a good book and my sidekick, Lola sitting near by (I will get to her in a minute).
So, if you are a girl that is usually on the go but seriously likes to celebrate her quiet time - I have some advice for you...do it more often! It is genuinely very good for your mind and there is something incredibly comforting about digesting your thoughts (especially in a warm bath!).
Carving out some “me time” is one of the best things a person can do. That is a fact.
1.) Being Alone Will Make You More Creative
I am all about working in teams and brainstorming new ideas. However, I've learned that too many cooks in the kitchen can be a bad thing. Trust me - there is nothing worse than a room full of extraverts in the creative industry trying to collaborate on a project's direction. So, after diving into some online research, I learned that when coming up with ideas and strategies, research shows that people come up with their best material on their own. “Decades of research have consistently shown that brainstorming groups think of far fewer ideas than the same number of people who work alone and later pool their ideas,” Keith Sawyer, a psychologist at Washington University in St. Louis said, according to The Washington Post.
2.) Alone Time Helps Clear Your Mind
There are moments during the day when I need to close my office door. Not because I don't want to be bothered but because I need about 30 minutes to have nothing but silence. Going through piles of accounting paperwork or reviewing floor plans needs all of my attention. And, the best way to do that is when my mind is at peace. Our brains need to rest and recharge in order to function as well as we want them to. Alone time is still important for processing and reflecting. Being "on" 24 hours a day does not give your brain a chance to refocus itself. You need to give your mind the opportunity to revitalize before moving on to the next day.
3.) You Get To Do What You Really Want To Do
When I am on my own watch I get to do exactly what I want. That often means opening up a really expensive bottle of wine and eating a box of mac n cheese. What can I say, I am a girl that loves contrast. When you are in a relationship, life becomes about compromising but the beauty of a solid partnership is being able to tell your man you need two hours of "me time." If he loves you and understands you - it won't be a big deal. And, that my friends is one of the reasons why I feel so lucky.
4.) You Get To Embrace Cozy Pet Time
My furry friend, Lola came into my life exactly at the right time. When I am alone, she is right there with me watching old Sex and The City reruns or some 90's cult classic. The next time you are all by yourself at home, I highly encourage you to make your alone time a relaxing one but to share it with your favorite pet. Pets have a funny way about giving unconditional love without you having to do anything in return besides love them right back.